There. I said it. It’s easier to have a bad attitude than a good one – a baditude if you will. (I did not coin this, I have no idea who did, but if it was you, consider this your personal shout out). Sometimes, I have a baditude. I’m happy, but my attitude can still suck. I’ve been trying to figure out how I get myself entrenched in baditude-land (a much shittier version of Disney land) and I’ve come to the conclusion that it is simply easier.
It’s easier to believe rumors and lies and your own misinterpretations than it is to challenge yourself and your deep-rooted beliefs. It’s easier to assume that your presumptions are right, than it is to trust what you are actually seeing firsthand.
It’s easier to take what people say as a big fat truth of life than it is to remind yourself that their opinion is smaller than a grain of salt in the scheme of things.
It’s easier to assume you’re just disliked, for no reason at all, than it is to own up to your mistakes.
It’s easier to play the victim than it is to be the story’s hero.
It’s easier to wake up, have a bad moment, and call it a bad day than it is to brush it off as a bad five minutes, count your blessings, and do something to turn your day around.
It’s easier to read/hear emails and texts (and even conversations) in tones to fit your narrative than it is to stay true to actual narrative.
It’s easier to brush someone off as mad, or upset, or even crazy, than it is to take a moment to check in with your friends, and even those strangers, that really might need a friend and just a tiny bit of validation.
It’s easier to avoid sad people, so you don’t feel sad yourself.
It’s easier to see the flaws in others, than it is to admit you may, just possibly, be a little flawed yourself.
It’s easier to believe the stories you make up in your head and your baseless conclusions than it is to give someone the benefit of the doubt.
It’s definitely easier to sit in bed and watch other people’s lives unfold, as they work toward their dreams and goals, instead of getting up and doing the work for your goals yourself.
It’s easier to feel sorry for yourself than it is to feel proud of yourself.
It’s easier to plan to do better and to be better, than it is to actually do better and be better.
It’s easier to assume the worst, to expect the least, and to always be prepared for disappointment – whether it be from yourself or others, than it is to practice optimism and having faith.
It’s easier to get mad and lash out than it is to admit that you are hurt and be upset.
It’s easier to hold grudges and stay mad than it is to forgive… and then actually practice that forgiveness.
It’s easier to just “be sad” than it is to actively pursue what makes you happy.
It’s easier to not pursue your goals and to abstain from your passions than it is to face the possibility of disappointing yourself.
It’s easier to assume you cannot, instead of proving to yourself that you can.
But… easier isn’t always better, my friends.
To illustrate: it’s easier to rack up credit card debt than it is to pay it off. It’s easier to buy the puppy than it is to actually train the puppy. It’s easier to assume your dental hygiene is fine than it is to go to the dentist. IT IS EASIER TO FAKE PLAN YOUR PINTEREST PERFECT WEDDING THAN IT IS TO ACTUALLY PLAN THAT M-FER. But still, that doesn’t make these things right, or fair, or even justified. Woe is reality.
Take the road less traveled. It will not be easy, it will not have the footprints of the predecessors before us, who opted for simple. It will have obstacles like tragedy, and frustration, and disappointment. It will have distractions like gossip, and misinterpretations, and hurt feelings. It will take work, it will take dedication. But wouldn’t you rather be proud of yourself than tired of yourself?
Sunny daze ahead, sweet friends (most likely). 🌞